Why have a humanist wedding? Because you deserve it.
“Your wedding, your way” is the phrase which sums it up.
You can have your ceremony where you want it, when you want it, and in the style which suits you. That might be completely traditional or breaking new ground.
My ceremonies are Humanist or non-religious. They are also centred on you and your story, so they are completely personalised and meaningful. A Humanist wedding is based on your thoughts, your stories, and your hopes for the future.
You can have it in a place which is important to you – your family garden, the place where the proposal happened, a nature reserve, an arts venue, anywhere. Which means you don’t have to have the expense of booking a registered venue or fitting in with a one-size fits all package.
A humanist wedding allows you to share the story of your love with those who mean most to you.
What might a ceremony be like?
A typical ceremony might contain any or all of the following elements:
- the story of how you met, how you feel about each other, and your hopes for the future;
- your commitments and promises to each other;
- the exchange of rings, and the speaking of vows;
- readings of prose or poetry which is important to you. This can be done by yourselves, by family and friends, or by me as celebrant;
- music, either recorded or live, chosen because it means something to both of you;
- various symbolic acts, like lighting candles, or “handfasting” (an ancient tradition from which the term “tying the knot” comes). Your could ask your guests to “warm” your rings with their hopes for you. Or you can do anything else which is meaningful for you.;
- the active involvement of the guests in whatever you – or they – want
How would I work with you?
I can give you advice on all these elements, sharing examples of how other couples have approached their ceremonies. But in the end, we will be creating something entirely new. I can suggest creative ways to make your ceremony special. Perhaps it’s about the use of the space. Or maybe it’s about using words or themes which are special to you in the ceremony. I can help you to find readings. Sometimes, if you talk to me early enough in your planning, I can help you find venues and other suppliers.
My standard fee for a wedding is £750 within a 50 mile radius of my home in East Sussex, payable in 3 instalments. If this is a barrier for you, please do talk to me about it and we’ll see if I can bring the cost down at all.
If you are interested in having me conduct your wedding ceremony, see the ‘about me’ page for details – https://www.felicityharvestcelebrant.co.uk/about-me/. If you like what I can offer and want to make a commitment to using me, we would set up a longer meeting. Then I can find out more about you, and what kind of ceremony you want. I would then develop a script as the basis for making amendments and developing ideas, until it is just right. I’d recommend a rehearsal the night before if at all possible. And of course, I’d conduct the ceremony on the day and give you a copy afterwards to keep.
Remember – it’s your wedding – make sure you do it your way!
Verity and Andy’s wedding cake – their wedding cake, their way!
As humanist ceremonies are not yet legally recognised in England, in order for your wedding or civil partnership to be legally recognised you would need to have a civil ceremony. In my own case, we made a virtue out of necessity. We had a small register office ceremony in the Midlands near to elderly family members who would not have wanted to travel. Then we had a humanist ceremony combined with a party in the function room of a restaurant on the beach in Brighton. Humanist weddings are legally recognised in Scotland, Northern Ireland, Guernsey, Jersey, the Republic of Ireland and many other countries around the world. We are hopeful that they will be in England and Wales soon too.
Chris and Vicky
We wanted to say a massive thank you for everything you did to make our wedding ceremony so perfect. Very early on in the planning stages someone said, take the time to make your service personal as that’s what people remember of the day and it was so very true. We were overwhelmed with the number of people who said it was one of the nicest services they has been to in their lives. For us, it had the right amount of solemnity, laughs and the personal element. Your delivery was spot on, and we really appreciate the time you gave us.
Jennifer RogersI wanted to write to say how special the ceremony was on Saturday. Many many people have contacted me to say they have never been at such a special event, I think my entire family (and there are lots of them) were in tears and will never forget this experience. Thank you from my heart for all your work and attention to detail in making their ceremony so personal and wonderful – beautiful, thoughtful and funny in turns.
Carlos (speaking about his & Charlotte’s Star Trek infused wedding)The service was more than I could have imagined, the quotes, the way you presented it and told our story and the spock quote in particular was amazing. We couldnt have asked for anything more.
A thank you from Seb and Kirsten
We just wanted to thank you again for all you did to make our ceremony so special. All our guests mentioned how ‘us’ the ceremony was, and how lovely the celebration was. We were thrilled with how it all turned out and are feeling very lucky to have had such a perfect day, and such a brilliant celebrant! So many of the real gems of the day – the themes, seed-giving and crockery smashing, came about through your guidance. So a big thank you!
Please click through the slides below to see some examples of ceremonies which I have performed.