• the story of how you met, how you feel about each other, and what your hopes are for the future;
• your commitments and promises to each other ;
• the exchange of rings, and the speaking of vows;
• readings of prose or poetry which is important to you, which can be done by yourselves, by family and friends, or by me as celebrant;
• music, either recorded or live, chosen because it means something to both of you;
• various symbolic acts, such as the lighting of candles, “handfasting” (an ancient tradition from which the term “tying the knot” comes), asking your guests to “warm” your rings with their hopes for you, and so on;
• the active involvement of the guests in whatever you – or they – want.
I can give you advice on all these elements, sharing examples of how other couples have approached their ceremonies, or developing something entirely new with you. As humanist ceremonies are not yet legally recognised in England, in order for your wedding or civil partnership to be legally recognised you would need to have a civil ceremony. In my own case, we made a virtue out of necessity and had a small registry office ceremony in the Midlands near to elderly family members who would not have wanted to travel, and a humanist ceremony combined with a party in the function room of a restaurant on the beach in Brighton. Humanist ceremonies are legally recognised in Scotland and in a number of other countries around the world.
If you are interested in having me conduct your wedding ceremony, see the 'contact' page for details. If after an initial discussion you want to make a commitment to using me, we would set up a longer meeting at which I can find out more about you, and what kind of ceremony you want. I would then develop a script as the basis for making amendments and developing ideas, until it is just right.