funerals: memorials and other ceremonies away from the crematorium
More and more people are opting for a “direct cremation” (the simplest kind of cremation with no mourners present) and then holding a memorial later, usually, but not always with the ashes present. The memorial is also a good option for people who have given their bodies to medical science.
This kind of memorial puts bereaved family and friends more in control, giving people the freedom to use their imagination to create a ceremony that is really unique, personal and free from the often old-fashioned conventions of the funeral, for example by booking a favourite pub, restaurant or social club as the venue. It also means that the ceremony can be arranged at a time to suit the bereaved, for example on a weekend a few weeks after the death, so people can get there more easily.
I can help you arrange a memorial event in the following simple steps:
- You contact me by phone or email;
- I come and see you to gather information to prepare the ceremony and discuss the options, such as whether the ashes are to be scattered (some families prefer to do this privately or not at all);
- You organise the venue, be it a pub, restaurant, social club or a favourite beauty spot and any catering, music or entertainment
- I send you a draft ceremony, which we refine by phone and email
- You collect the cremated ashes from the funeral director
- We all get together on the day and celebrate the deceased life in a way which is appropriate
For other non-crematorium options, including doing it yourself, plus lots of advice on making environmentally friendly choices, see http://www.naturaldeath.org.uk